In Memory of

Bethany Wilberding

October 16, 1995 - October 28, 2016
Bethany Anne Wilberding was born October 16, 1995, along with her twin sister, Abby. Bethany has always been a giver. Since birth she taught her family and those around her compassion, generosity, and determination. She warmed us with her presence and always gave us perspective while asking nothing in return. An inspiration to us all, she reminds us to put our best selves forward. Born with hydrocephaly, Bethany proved to be tenacious from an early age. She never stopped fighting, and neither did the people who loved her. Even when she was in and out of hospitals, she maintained a steadfast yet spirited disposition. When she wasn't busy getting into mischief, Bethany would be found using her imagination while playing dress up or house with her siblings. In 2000, Bethany's life and the lives of those around her were profoundly impacted. Surviving a brain injury, she once again proved to be a fighter and a survivor. Her innocence and ability to inspire compassion helped others become understanding and charitable people. Her fighting spirit was reflected in her parents, Joan and Paul Wilberding, who strived to provide her with the best care in the face of numerous and trying obstacles. In this chapter of Bethany's life, she was able to touch innumerable lives of her family, classmates, nurses, doctors, and so many others. She was a positive force in the world and changed others' perspectives on those with different abilities. If Bethany wasn't busy impacting her classmates while attending Marcus-Meriden-Cleghorn Community Schools, she would be found snuggling under a blanket, listening to music, or enjoying a good book. In 2015, Bethany moved from Marcus, Iowa, to Mid Step South Cypress House in Sioux City, Iowa. By joining this new community, Bethany attended East High School and again impacted her housemates, classmates, teachers, and nursing staff. She inspired them to be generous and compassionate. Bethany's generosity continues beyond her death through the donation of her organs. Her legacy and memory endures. Bethany is preceded in death by her grandparents Al and Gerry Wilberding and Ben and Chris Oertli. She is survived by her parents Paul and Joan Wilberding, siblings Matt (and Ashley) Wilberding, Katie (and Steve) Cross, Jessica (and Adrian) Suarez, Briana Wilberding, Abby Wilberding; nieces and nephews Penelope, Violet, and Jonathan Wilberding, Olivia and Charlie Cross, and Adrian Suarez. She is also survived by her many aunts, uncles, and cousins. In lieu of flowers, memorials will be given to the Ronald McDonald House and Mid Step Services for all of their help and support to Bethany throughout her life.
A funeral mass will be held at 10:30 a.m., Monday, October 31st at Holy Name Catholic Church in Marcus. **THE FAMILY SUGGESTS MEMORIALS IN BETHANY'S NAME BE DIRECTED TO EITHER MIDSTEP SERVICES, INC IN SIOUX CITY OR RONALD MCDONALD HOUSE CHARITIES. Thank you
Father Dan Guenther
Matt Wilberding Steven Cross Adrian Suarez Alan Oertli Bill Oertli David Oertli
Visitation will begin at 3:00 p.m. Sunday, October 30th at the Greenwood-Schubert Funeral Home in Marcus. The family will be present from 5:00-7:00, and a prayer service will follow at 7:00 p.m.
Holy Name Catholic Cemetery


Tuesday, November 8, 2016 at 12:00 AM
“My deepest sympathy, a special and playful girl. My thoughts and prayers.
Warmly Carole”
- Carole Voss
Wednesday, November 2, 2016 at 12:00 AM
Monday, October 31, 2016 at 12:00 AM
“Dear Paul and Joan, I was so sorry to hear today about the loss of your precious daughter! I wish I had know in time to attend one of the services, but please know my thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.”
- Dianne Wilberding Aust
Monday, October 31, 2016 at 12:00 AM
“Thoughts and prayers to the entire family from all of the McCormicks.”
- Philip C. McCormick
Sunday, October 30, 2016 at 12:00 AM
“Paul and Joan: What great parents you have been to Bethany. She was so blessed to have you and you blessed to have her. This is a great loss to your family but with the deep faith you have and have had during her life, God will see you through it. She is unpained and loved by her grandparents and Jesus in heaven. God bless her memory.”
- Don and Carole Shorter
Sunday, October 30, 2016 at 12:00 AM
“We're so sorry for your loss, Bethany is now dancing with the Angels, and her spirit soars. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all at this time.”
- Doug & Sheila Alesch
Sunday, October 30, 2016 at 12:00 AM
“I'm so sorry to hear about Beth. My prayers of comfort are with you. ”
- Lisa Bringle
Sunday, October 30, 2016 at 12:00 AM
“My deepest condolences to you and your family, Paul & Joan. Keeping you all in my prayers.”
- Sarah Mechtenberg
Saturday, October 29, 2016 at 12:00 AM
“Paul & Joan, May God be with you and all your Family during this time of sorrow.”
- Mary Miller
Saturday, October 29, 2016 at 12:00 AM
“My sincere condolences to the Wilberding family on the loss of young Bethany. May God bring you peace and comfort in your time of loss. ”
- Amber M. Lively
Saturday, October 29, 2016 at 12:00 AM
“Bethany had a beautiful spirit that touched everyone around her! I loved playing dress up and in the pink playhouse with her and her sisters. My thoughts are with Abby and the entire Wilberding family. ”
- Miranda A Galvin
Friday, October 28, 2016 at 12:00 AM
“So sorry for your loss. Our most sincere condolences. Your family is in our prayers at this difficult time. ”
- Roger and Sue Dentlinger
Friday, October 28, 2016 at 12:00 AM
“Wilberding family so sorry for the loss of your beloved daughter,sister, neice, and cousin.”
- Jean (Flaherty) Binder
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